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WHAT OPRAH WROTE ABOUT MEN

…and some of my comments

• If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

• If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

…so quit depending on that hope that if you do this or that, if you show him you’ll give up your life for him, he’ll stay, because he won’t. if he does so, it’ll just be out of gratitude and he’ll only stay as long as that gratitude lasts.

• Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

• Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

…if you find yourself making excuses, it’s time to step back and rethink why you are doing so.

• Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.

…if it’s really meant to be, you should be accepted for who you are.

• Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

… or you’ll end up defining your happiness through him

• If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t "be friends". A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.

… ouch! tinamaan ako dito. a friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

• If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

• Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

… if it’s supposed to get better, it shouldn’t start out so worse.

• The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

… unless under mo siya. and he’s really into you. so stop pinning your hopes on other people.

• Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

… marami pang susustentuhan. wah na pangdate pagdating sayo. pano ‘pag namatay pa ‘yung mga nanay, e di ikaw pa ang mag-aalaga?

• Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

…this is so true! ask me.

• Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

… alangan namang the sky is the limit. baka malula ka.

• If something bothers you, speak up.

…unless you’re mute.

• Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

…true! mas mapagkakatiwalaan pa ang aso. at hindi siya diary.

• You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

…and even if you can, why should you do so? he should do it for himself.

• Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.

… especially if you are way above him in education or job. don’t make yourself seem inferior just to win his favor, or he’ll make you feel inferior you’ll almost believe it. although most men love that.

• Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

… and you are a woman, nothing less. a goddess too.

• Never let a man define who you are.

… they’re not dictionaries. they may define you way below your real meaning.

• Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with her, he’ll cheat on you.

… becoz if it’s something borrowed, it’s not yours. you have to return it at the end of the day. even if you keep it, it will never be yours.

• A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

… so allow him to treat you only the best way you should be treated.

• All men are NOT dogs.

… they’re wolves. they devour.

• You should not be the one doing all the ending…compromise is a two way street.

… hindi ka rin diktador! at ang mga diktador, napapatalsik sa pwesto.

• You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…

… all baggages are heavy. or else, hindi na sila baggae, pwede na silang handcarry.

• Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

… this is so me! or those issues will haunt you forever.

• You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…

… ano ka Jerry Maguire? and you are not incomplete to start with.

• look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.

• Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

… so is flirting.

• Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

… show him your worth. because if you’re really worth something, he’ll miss that worth.

• Never move into his mother’s house.

… i don’t know about this. but i surely don’t want to do this. baka gawin lang akong katulong.

• Never co-sign for a man.

… sa bangko ba ‘to? sa loans?

• Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

… or at least tries. wag naman masyadong materialistic.

• Share this with other women and men (just so they know)…You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.